Reforming the Family Court system

In Canada, the family court rooms are not anchored to a legal system...they are arbitration portals, David and Goliath universes, and a place where a families net worth evaporates.  The only winners are the lawyers....this is not based solely on my situation but on many other people's situations.  How does this affect our children, well, it means families downsize everything, while the lawyers elevate their lifestyles.  But the most critical effect is that those funds could be used to support a child's education, as I like to say "when we invest in kids education, we invest in progress, innovation, creativity and the possibility of everything."

So I throw this out, how do we impact this dynamic, how do we help families push through these situations with perspective and not animosity...I am not suggesting we can change the dynamics of the emotional pain of divorce, IMPOSSIBLE, but how do we coach and love those close to us on this and on a larger scale...how do we give lawyers a conscience.  I can tell you that I spent over $500,000 ...I don't say this to be boastful,,,bcs it financially killed me, but to show magnitude.  I asked my lawyer one day, the day I fired him, "do you realize I could have provided clean drinking water for a third world country?" 

I want to start a reform movement, and it is going to be anchored to eliminating parental alienation.  basically, not letting the courts arbitrate DNA....to be clear, if a child is in danger, I don't support the parent causing harm...

I will leave you with this,,,I have not seen my kids for 3 and 1/2 years...I have never hit them, never harmed them, taught them solid values, taught them how to ski, wakeboard, was the class mom, solidly focused on nutrition, had a home filled with laughter, love and values....so ask me,,,how did that happen to you...well that will be my next blog...the title  365 Days in a Rowboat....think about a rowboat at sea in a storm....unusual things will happen